{"id":3626,"date":"2024-01-31T12:31:49","date_gmt":"2024-01-31T11:31:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/?post_type=jet_blog&p=3626"},"modified":"2024-01-31T12:50:33","modified_gmt":"2024-01-31T11:50:33","slug":"jak-se-deti-ptat","status":"publish","type":"jet_blog","link":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/blog\/jak-se-deti-ptat\/","title":{"rendered":"Jak se d\u011bt\u00ed pt\u00e1t?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Asi stokr\u00e1t jsme d\u011btem zopakovali v\u011bty typu: „Kdybys byl v pr\u016f\u0161vihu, tak hlavn\u011b p\u0159ij\u010f!“, „Nikdo ti hlavu neutrhne, sv\u011b\u0159 se“<\/em>, „Bo\u017ee, co se stalo, pro\u010d n\u00e1m to ne\u0159ekne\u0161?“<\/em>. A a\u010dkoliv up\u0159\u00edmn\u011b my rodi\u010de v\u00edme, \u017ee kdyby bylo d\u00edt\u011b fakt v mal\u00e9ru, jako je \u0161ikana, kyber\u0161ikana, n\u011bkdo mu ubl\u00ed\u017eil, pohlavn\u011b jej zneu\u017eil \u010di n\u011bkomu se stal n\u011bjak\u00fd \u00faraz, sna\u017eili bychom se mu v prvn\u00ed \u0159ad\u011b pomoci. Pro\u010d to ty d\u011bti nech\u00e1pou? \u010ceho se boj\u00ed? Poj\u010fte objevit spole\u010dn\u011b d\u016fvody pro\u010d a jak na to p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b jinak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Co d\u011btem br\u00e1n\u00ed se sv\u011b\u0159it<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

P\u0159em\u00fd\u0161leli jste n\u011bkdy nad t\u00edm, co v\u00e1m zabra\u0148uje \u0159\u00edci pravdu, kdy\u017e se stane po\u0159\u00e1dn\u00fd pr\u016f\u0161vih?
Boj\u00edme se. M\u00e1me strach, z toho co bude, strach z trestu. To je jeden z prvn\u00edch d\u016fvodu, co napadne i d\u011bti. Pokud v rodin\u011b vychov\u00e1v\u00e1te d\u011bti na principu odm\u011bn a trest\u016f je p\u0159irozen\u00e9, \u017ee se boj\u00ed trestu i v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b, \u017ee je n\u011bkdo vyd\u00edr\u00e1 na internetu. U rodin, kter\u00e9 preferuj\u00ed p\u0159irozen\u00e9 d\u016fsledky vypl\u00fdvaj\u00edc\u00ed z \u010din\u016f nebo chov\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte, je tato obava u d\u011bt\u00ed ni\u017e\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dal\u0161\u00edm velk\u00fdm d\u016fvodem, pro\u010d se v\u00e1m d\u00edt\u011b nechce sv\u011b\u0159it, je, \u017ee v\u00e1s zklame. \u010casto c\u00edt\u00ed velkou vinu, za probl\u00e9m, kter\u00fd maj\u00ed. D\u011bti v\u00e1s miluj\u00ed – i kdy\u017e jak zlob\u00ed se to ob\u010das nezd\u00e1 – ale posledn\u00ed, co cht\u011bj\u00ed, je v\u00e1s zklamat. M\u016f\u017eete se tedy spolehnout na to, \u017ee d\u011bti sp\u00ed\u0161e zaml\u010d\u00ed probl\u00e9m, budou se j\u00edm tr\u00e1pit, ne\u017e aby v\u00e1m rod\u00ed\u010d\u016fm zp\u016fsobily zklam\u00e1n\u00ed, tr\u00e1pen\u00ed \u010di v\u00e1m p\u0159id\u011bl\u00e1valy starosti (beztak jich m\u00e1te a\u017e nad hlavu, zvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 pokud je situace doma n\u011bjak vyhrocen\u00e1). Na to nikdy nezapom\u00ednejte!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Posledn\u00edm v\u00fdznamn\u00fdm d\u016fvodem pro\u010d v\u00e1m nic ne\u0159\u00edct, je, \u017ee to nepochop\u00edte a budete vy\u0161ilovat. Jako v\u017edycky, kdy\u017e si zapomn\u011bly \u00fakoly, v\u011bci na tr\u00e9nink, neuklidily si v pokoji. D\u011bti mlad\u0161\u00edho v\u011bku zkr\u00e1tka neum\u00ed rozli\u0161it, kdy se roz\u010dilujete v\u00fdchovn\u011b, ale kdy\u017e v\u00e1m \u0159eknou, \u017ee jim n\u011bkdo ubli\u017euje, je to jin\u00e9. D\u011bti maj\u00ed z\u00e1\u017eitky p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm z toho, kdy jste k\u0159i\u010deli, nech\u00e1pali „jak je to mo\u017en\u00fd proboha, v\u017edy\u0165….“, ty jsi \u00fapln\u011b nemo\u017en\u00fd, kolik\u00e1t jsem ti to p\u0159\u00edpom\u00ednala.. Jednodu\u0161e si neum\u00ed jinou reakci p\u0159edstavit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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D\u016fv\u011bra se tvo\u0159\u00ed \u010diny nikoliv slovy<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Pro\u017eitky jsou v\u00edce ne\u017e slova. Jeden nebo v\u0161echny t\u0159i typy d\u016fvod\u016f jsou prost\u011b v\u00edce ne\u017e ob\u010das v\u00e1mi vysloven\u00e1 v\u011bta: „Kdyby cokoliv, tak p\u0159ij\u010f“.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jak se d\u011bt\u00ed pt\u00e1t, aby se v\u00e1m mohly sv\u011b\u0159it?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Vezm\u011bme si takov\u00fd jednoduch\u00fd p\u0159\u00edklad. P\u0159ijdou d\u011bti ze zahrady, jsou od krve a vy nev\u00edte co se stalo. Prvn\u00ed co n\u00e1m vyl\u00e9tne z pusy je ot\u00e1zka. Co se stalo? Jste v po\u0159\u00e1dku? \u010c\u00ed je ta krev? Co v\u00e1m je? Mluv! Co ml\u010d\u00edte! Se zoufalstv\u00edm a strachem v hlase klademe dal\u0161\u00ed a dal\u0161\u00ed ot\u00e1zky, prohl\u00ed\u017e\u00edme d\u011bti ze v\u0161ech stran a sna\u017e\u00edme se zjistit maximum informac\u00ed. D\u011bti ml\u010d\u00ed. V lep\u0161\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b pod\u00e1vaj\u00ed velmi mlhav\u00e9 a neutr\u00e1ln\u00ed odpov\u011bdi.
\u010c\u00edm to? Jak\u00e1koliv ot\u00e1zka je „obna\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed“ a snadno toho, komu je ur\u010dena, zastav\u00ed v jeho chuti d\u00e1le komunikovat. D\u011bti jsou nav\u00edc velmi vn\u00edmav\u00e9 k na\u0161emu t\u00f3nu hlasu, na\u0161emu nalad\u011bn\u00ed. C\u00edt\u00ed z n\u00e1s strach a za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00ed se b\u00e1t. Pokud tedy nejde o \u017eivot, kdy je vhodn\u00e9 konat a poskytnout prvn\u00ed pomoc, doporu\u010duji trochu zpomalit a neptat se hned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kouzlo jak zjistit, co se d\u011bje je v n\u00e1sleduj\u00edc\u00edm postupu:<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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  1. Postarejte se o sebe, ho\u010fte se do klidu. V emoc\u00edch d\u011btem nepom\u016f\u017eeme. Naopak, jak jsme si \u0159ekli v\u00fd\u0161e, budou se o n\u00e1s b\u00e1t, nebudou n\u00e1m cht\u00edt p\u0159it\u011b\u017eovat a rad\u011bji budou ml\u010det.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Napojte se na d\u00edt\u011b. Zkuste vid\u011bt na chv\u00edli sv\u011bt o\u010dima d\u00edt\u011bte. Bu\u010fte tu pro n\u011bj, sp\u00ed\u0161e ne\u017e-li jako rodi\u010d, ale jako d\u016fv\u011brn\u00e1 bezpe\u010dn\u00e1 n\u00e1ru\u010d, co nechce vy\u0159e\u0161it probl\u00e9m. Jen tak tam pro d\u00edt\u011b b\u00fdt. To hodn\u011b pom\u00e1h\u00e1.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Potvrzujte d\u00edt\u011bti, \u017ee jejich probl\u00e9my berete v\u00e1\u017en\u011b, \u017ee jim rozum\u00edte, projevujte z\u00e1jem, neshazujte to, co d\u00edt\u011b \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Oce\u0148ujte, pokud d\u00edt\u011b ji\u017e l\u00ed\u010d\u00ed sv\u016fj probl\u00e9m, lze ocenit, co ji\u017e zvl\u00e1dlo, \u017ee p\u0159i\u0161lo, \u017ee v\u00e1m o probl\u00e9mu pov\u00edd\u00e1. Oce\u0148ujte popisn\u00fdm jazykem. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Zplnomoc\u0148ujte. Sna\u017ete nab\u00edzet d\u00edt\u011bti mo\u017enosti, aby mohlo t\u0159eba jen malou \u010d\u00e1st probl\u00e9mu vy\u0159e\u0161it samo. Projevujte mu svoji d\u016fv\u011bru, \u017ee na to m\u00e1. Roste tak jeho sebejistota.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. Spole\u010dn\u011b hledejte \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed, napln\u011bn\u00ed pot\u0159eby, nastavujte hranice, opat\u0159en\u00ed, ra\u010fte, vzd\u011bl\u00e1vejte, cokoliv co bude dan\u00e1 situace vy\u017eadovat. Ale v\u017edy m\u011bjte na mysli p\u0159edchoz\u00edch p\u011bt bod\u016f. Ty jsou kl\u00ed\u010dem k tomu jak v\u0161e spole\u010dn\u011b zvl\u00e1dnout. <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Co doma zav\u00e9st aneb jak na prevenci?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Jednou z mo\u017enost\u00ed je, potk\u00e1vat se s d\u011btmi pravideln\u011b (\u010detnost je na v\u00e1s), t\u0159eba v pe\u0159inov\u00e9m bunkru a tam s nimi jen tak b\u00fdt. U star\u0161\u00edch sle\u010den to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt posezen\u00ed s \u010dajem\/k\u00e1vou p\u0159i sv\u00ed\u010dk\u00e1ch. U star\u0161\u00edch kluk\u016f bych doporu\u010dila pravideln\u00e9 spole\u010dn\u00e9 aktivity na zahrad\u011b, venku, nad opravou po\u010d\u00edta\u010de apod. Nem\u00edt tady pod pe\u0159inami mezi \u017eidlemi osv\u011btlen\u00e9 baterkami \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 ambice vychov\u00e1vat, ale jen tak b\u00fdt, pov\u00eddat si, opravovat,\u00a0 mazl\u00ednkovat se, ob\u010das n\u011bco sd\u00edlet. T\u0159eba to z \u010deho m\u00e1te strach, a nechat aktivitu na d\u00edt\u011bti, jestli i ono se v tomto speci\u00e1ln\u00ed bezpe\u010dn\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed nebude cht\u00edt sv\u011b\u0159it. Pov\u00eddat si o tom, co m\u00e1 kdo r\u00e1d, co nerad, co jej bav\u00ed a co \u0161tve…Smyslem je vytvo\u0159it v\u00e1\u0161 mikro sv\u011bt, kde jste jeden pro druh\u00e9ho, nejste v roli vychov\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed a kontroluj\u00edc\u00ed rodi\u010d a d\u00edt\u011b, ale jste bl\u00edzc\u00ed lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed si v\u011b\u0159\u00ed, d\u016fv\u011b\u0159uj\u00ed si a mohou se jeden druh\u00e9mu sv\u011b\u0159it. \u010casto z v\u00fdzkum\u016f, informac\u00ed z Linky Bezpe\u010d\u00ed v\u00edme, \u017ee je pro d\u011bti n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9 n\u011bkdy a\u017e nemo\u017en\u00e9 se n\u00e1m rodi\u010d\u016fm sv\u011b\u0159it. Douf\u00e1me, \u017ee t\u00edmto \u010dl\u00e1nkem jsme v\u00e1m objasnili pro\u010d tomu tak je. V\u00edte tak\u00e9, \u017ee kl\u00ed\u010dem k tomu, aby se v\u00e1m d\u00edt\u011b sv\u011b\u0159ilo, je jeho pocit jistoty, bezpe\u010d\u00ed. K tomu je t\u0159eba pomalu a postupn\u011b budovat vztahy postaven\u00e9 na d\u016fv\u011b\u0159e. A to n\u011bjak\u00fd \u010das trv\u00e1. P\u0159esto ji\u017e dnes m\u016f\u017eete spole\u010dn\u011b v rodin\u011b vybudovat takov\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed, kde si s d\u011btmi budete pov\u00eddat, a\u0165 je to formou rodinn\u00e9 rady, bunkr\u016f \u010di hn\u00edzd, pravideln\u00fdch posezen\u00ed \u010di \u010dinnost\u00ed. Jak\u00e9koliv ritu\u00e1ly k tomu pomohou.
    Nikdy nezapome\u0148te, \u017ee ne\u017e se d\u011bt\u00ed za\u010dnete pt\u00e1t, co se stalo, mus\u00edte nejd\u0159\u00edve „p\u0159ipravit p\u016fdu“ k tomu, aby se v\u00e1m mohly sv\u011b\u0159it. A pokud budete cht\u00edt pomoci vy – jsem tady pro v\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    N\u00e1m\u011bty jak se pt\u00e1t d\u011bt\u00ed na to jak se jim doma \u017eije<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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    • Co d\u011bl\u00e1\u0161 nejrad\u011bji? A co T\u011b ale v\u016fbec nebav\u00ed?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Co T\u011b bav\u00ed, kdy\u017e d\u011bl\u00e1me spole\u010dn\u011b cel\u00e1 rodina?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Co by mi \u0159ekl o Tob\u011b t\u00e1ta \/  m\u00e1ma?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • S k\u00fdm z na\u0161\u00ed rodiny nejrad\u011bji tr\u00e1v\u00ed\u0161 \u010das? Co d\u011bl\u00e1te? <\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Co si mysl\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee se d\u011bje doma o v\u00edkendu, kdy\u017e tam ty nejsi?A z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1me s t\u00e1tou\/m\u00e1mou sami?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Kdo si mysl\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee to u n\u00e1s doma \u0159\u00edd\u00ed?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Kdybys m\u011bl tu moc a mohl dnes jednu v\u011bc v na\u0161\u00ed rodin\u011b zm\u011bnit, co by to bylo? A pro\u010d?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Kdy\u017e nen\u00ed doma dobr\u00e1 atmosf\u00e9ra, kdo se to sna\u017e\u00ed zm\u011bnit a \u010d\u00edm?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Jak pozn\u00e1\u0161, \u017ee jsem tu pro tebe?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Jak pozn\u00e1\u0161, \u017ee t\u011b m\u00e1m r\u00e1d\/r\u00e1da?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

      Pamatujte, \u017ee je kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9 vytv\u00e1\u0159et prost\u0159ed\u00ed otev\u0159enosti a d\u016fv\u011bry, aby se d\u011bti c\u00edtily pohodln\u011b p\u0159i sd\u00edlen\u00ed sv\u00fdch pocit\u016f a z\u00e1\u017eitk\u016f. Respektujte jejich hranice a bu\u010fte trp\u011bliv\u00ed, pokud necht\u011bj\u00ed o n\u011b\u010dem mluvit ihned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      A\u010dkoli my rodi\u010de up\u0159\u00edmn\u011b v\u00edme, \u017ee kdyby se na\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b dostalo do mal\u00e9ru, jako je \u0161ikana, kyber\u0161ikana, n\u011bkdo mu ubl\u00ed\u017eil nebo m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt smutn\u00e9 a tr\u00e1pit se, sna\u017eili bychom se mu v prvn\u00ed \u0159ad\u011b pomoci. Pro\u010d se ale \u010dasto st\u00e1v\u00e1, \u017ee se n\u00e1m d\u011bti nesv\u011b\u0159uj\u00ed? Pro\u010d maj\u00ed strach a jak se jich pt\u00e1t? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3627,"parent":0,"template":"","jet_blog_kategorie":[64],"class_list":["post-3626","jet_blog","type-jet_blog","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","jet_blog_kategorie-clanek"],"blocksy_meta":[],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015.jpg",1999,1275,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015-300x191.jpg",300,191,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015-768x490.jpg",768,490,true],"large":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015-1024x653.jpg",1024,653,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015-1536x980.jpg",1536,980,true],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/jak_mluvit_Depositphotos_10293406_l-2015.jpg",1999,1275,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"Kate\u0159ina Novotn\u00e1","author_link":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/author\/dc9e16f515c9874e\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"A\u010dkoli my rodi\u010de up\u0159\u00edmn\u011b v\u00edme, \u017ee kdyby se na\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b dostalo do mal\u00e9ru, jako je \u0161ikana, kyber\u0161ikana, n\u011bkdo mu ubl\u00ed\u017eil nebo m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt smutn\u00e9 a tr\u00e1pit se, sna\u017eili bychom se mu v prvn\u00ed \u0159ad\u011b pomoci. Pro\u010d se ale \u010dasto st\u00e1v\u00e1, \u017ee se n\u00e1m d\u011bti nesv\u011b\u0159uj\u00ed? Pro\u010d maj\u00ed strach a jak se jich pt\u00e1t?","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog\/3626"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/jet_blog"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog\/3626\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3627"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3626"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"jet_blog_kategorie","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog_kategorie?post=3626"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}