{"id":608,"date":"2023-10-12T20:25:03","date_gmt":"2023-10-12T18:25:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/?post_type=jet_blog&p=608"},"modified":"2023-12-08T23:15:50","modified_gmt":"2023-12-08T22:15:50","slug":"musi-deti-na-vanoce-k-otci","status":"publish","type":"jet_blog","link":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/blog\/musi-deti-na-vanoce-k-otci\/","title":{"rendered":"Mus\u00ed d\u011bti na V\u00e1noce k otci?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Va\u0161e ot\u00e1zka:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

„Dobr\u00fd den, m\u00e1m na V\u00e1s dotaz. M\u00e1m dva mal\u00e9 syny (jeden z nich m\u00e1 poruchu autistick\u00e9ho spektra a ment\u00e1ln\u00ed retardaci). Jejich otec je u\u017e rok nevid\u011bl, nejev\u00ed o n\u011b \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd z\u00e1jem, nekupuje d\u00e1rky a podobn\u011b. Jsme rozveden\u00ed, d\u011bti m\u00e1m v p\u00e9\u010di j\u00e1 s t\u00edm, \u017ee si d\u011bti bude br\u00e1t alespo\u0148 jeden v\u00edkend v m\u011bs\u00edci k n\u011bmu, co\u017e ale ned\u011bl\u00e1, hlavn\u011b proto\u017ee mu mlad\u0161\u00ed syn jak \u0159ekl – „p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017e\u00ed“. Bl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed se V\u00e1noce a j\u00e1 se mysl\u00edm, \u017ee jeho matka bude cht\u00edt d\u011bti vid\u011bt – m\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka tedy zn\u00ed: Mus\u00edm mu d\u011bti d\u00e1t, kdy\u017e se cel\u00fd rok neozve ani zda jsou zdrav\u00ed a jen na z\u00e1klad\u011b toho, \u017ee si to p\u0159eje babi\u010dka, si je na V\u00e1noce bude vy\u017eadovat? Moc V\u00e1m d\u011bkuji za pomoc.“<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Moje odpov\u011b\u010f …<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Dobr\u00fd den Andreo, d\u011bkujeme za d\u016fv\u011bru se kterou se obrac\u00edte na Akademii rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Z va\u0161ich \u0159\u00e1dk\u016f m\u00e1m pocit, \u017ee se zlob\u00edte nebo za\u017e\u00edv\u00e1te pocity l\u00edtosti? Zlob\u00edte se na otce, \u017ee na sv\u00e9 d\u011bti ka\u0161le? Mo\u017en\u00e1 je v\u00e1m to l\u00edto. Ne tak za v\u00e1s, ale za kluky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Na druhou stranu si \u0159\u00edk\u00e1m, \u017ee je fajn, \u017ee o kluky m\u00e1 z\u00e1jem babi\u010dka – mo\u017en\u00e1 by vnuky cht\u011bla v\u00eddat \u010dast\u011bji ne jen na V\u00e1noce. Mo\u017en\u00e1 i v\u00e1m by to pomohlo v p\u00e9\u010di o n\u011b a trochu si odpo\u010dinout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a>To \u017ee jste rozveden\u00ed neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee nem\u016f\u017eete m\u00edt hezk\u00e9 vztahy s tch\u00fdn\u00ed a tch\u00e1nem.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00edm o tom, co p\u00ed\u0161ete a p\u0159ijde mi, \u017ee d\u011bti nejsou v\u011bc, kterou n\u011bkomu d\u00e1v\u00e1te nebo si ji nech\u00e1v\u00e1te. Ot\u00e1zka je jak\u00fd model chcete nab\u00edzet sv\u00fdm syn\u016fm k jak\u00fdm hodnot\u00e1m je chcete vychov\u00e1vat. Jestli m\u00e1te z\u00e1jem umo\u017enit jim rozhodnout se sami jak\u00fd budou m\u00edt s t\u00e1tou vztah.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a>Mo\u017en\u00e1 otec nespl\u0148uje va\u0161e o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, jak by se m\u011bl otec syn\u016f chovat (mo\u017en\u00e1 to nebyl pro v\u00e1s ide\u00e1ln\u00ed partner), ale i p\u0159esto pro kluky je to t\u00e1ta a oni se na t\u00e1tu d\u00edvaj\u00ed trochu jinou optikou. Mo\u017en\u00e1 si ho idealizuj\u00ed – ale to p\u0159ece v\u016fbec nevad\u00ed, \u017ee nevid\u00ed to co vy. \u017de maj\u00ed jin\u00e1 o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed na t\u00e1tu. \u017de budou r\u00e1di jen za ob\u010dasn\u00fd kontakt.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b pokud syn pot\u0159ebuje ur\u010dit\u00e9 stereotypy, opat\u0159en\u00ed pro sv\u00e9 bezpe\u010d\u00ed vzhledem k poru\u0161e autistick\u00e9ho spektra a ment\u00e1ln\u00ed retardaci (nev\u00edm jak\u00e9ho stupn\u011b), je t\u0159eba jeho pot\u0159eby respektovat. To u\u017e mi ale p\u0159ipad\u00e1 jako jin\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka, kterou tady te\u010f ne\u0159e\u0161\u00edme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u00e1pu, \u017ee to nen\u00ed snadn\u00e9, ale v\u00e1\u0161 vztah s otcem je \u00fapln\u011b jin\u00fd, ne\u017e vztah va\u0161ich syn\u016f s otcem. V\u00e1\u0161 pohled nen\u00ed stejn\u00fd jako pohled va\u0161ich syn\u016f. To co v\u00e1s m\u016f\u017ee zlobit je m\u016f\u017ee t\u011b\u0161it a d\u00e1vat jim radost. Zkuste se na to pod\u00edvat i z t\u00e9to perspektivy a pak zvolit, jak se rozhodnete.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Opatrujte se, a\u0165 m\u00e1te kolem sebe hodn\u011b dobr\u00fdch lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed v\u00e1s v\u017edy v t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdch a n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00fdch chv\u00edl\u00edch podpo\u0159\u00ed – rodina, p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9 jak\u00e1koliv komunita. Nen\u00ed nad to, neb\u00fdt na p\u00e9\u010di sama.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u0161e dobr\u00e9, p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm hodn\u011b zdrav\u00ed, kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 v\u00e1no\u010dn\u00ed sv\u00e1tky. Srde\u010dn\u011b, Katka<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Pokud otec b\u011bhem roku nejev\u00ed o d\u011bti z\u00e1jem, b\u00fdv\u00e1 t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 se rozhodnout, jestli ho maj\u00ed nav\u0161t\u00edvit alespo\u0148 na V\u00e1noce. A jak to ud\u011blat s n\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bvou prarodi\u010d\u016f? Tady je jeden v\u00e1s p\u0159edv\u00e1no\u010dn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh a na\u0161e rada.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":2744,"parent":0,"template":"","jet_blog_kategorie":[63],"class_list":["post-608","jet_blog","type-jet_blog","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","jet_blog_kategorie-poradna"],"blocksy_meta":[],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci.jpg",1920,1280,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci-300x200.jpg",300,200,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci-768x512.jpg",768,512,true],"large":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci-1536x1024.jpg",1536,1024,true],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/Musi-deti-na-Vanoce-k-otci.jpg",1920,1280,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"Kate\u0159ina Novotn\u00e1","author_link":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/author\/dc9e16f515c9874e\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Pokud otec b\u011bhem roku nejev\u00ed o d\u011bti z\u00e1jem, b\u00fdv\u00e1 t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 se rozhodnout, jestli ho maj\u00ed nav\u0161t\u00edvit alespo\u0148 na V\u00e1noce. A jak to ud\u011blat s n\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bvou prarodi\u010d\u016f? Tady je jeden v\u00e1s p\u0159edv\u00e1no\u010dn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh a na\u0161e rada.","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog\/608"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/jet_blog"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog\/608\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2744"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=608"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"jet_blog_kategorie","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katkanovotna.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/jet_blog_kategorie?post=608"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}